So I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately; about all my friends on facebook breaking up and then getting with someone new, people having big fights about who slept with whose boyfriend, about Gossip Girl telling young women that it’s not okay for a girl to be single and not having sex. I was talking about it with a friend a few minutes ago and she said the appeal to being a slag is that it’s easy. It’s easier to have sex with no strings attached and not get your heart broken than it is to go on dates and find the right person and fall in love. I can agree with that. It probably is a lot easier to walk into a bar, go up to a guy and say ‘You can have sex with me’ than it is to go up to a guy and ask him what he does for a living and try to build a relationship on nothing at all. It’s easier to be easy and that’s a great argument for slag-ism, but being a comparative kind of person, I had to find something to compare it to.
So I guess sex is like that thing on the other side of the big chain link fence. You’re on one side, it’s over there, and you can see it. Great. You could go through the gate because that would be easy and practical and chances are you wouldn’t get hurt going through the gate. You’d go through and you’d get to your goal, easy as pie. The other option is to go over the fence. This is not very practical, it’s difficult, it’s time consuming and you could very easily fall or get your foot caught in the links and hurt yourself quite badly. But I don’t remember ever climbing over a fence without humming the Indiana Jones theme, and I don’t remember ever climbing over a fence and not feeling incredibly accomplished and badass and awesome, even when I did fall and hurt myself and cried the bitter tears that go hand in hand with potentially stupid decisions. I’d get to my goal(hurt or not) and feel extremely hardcore for it. Yes, I might have to spend a little while on crutches because I twisted my ankle and got hurt and yes, there may well be more fences.
But I climbed it, didn’t I?
Can you say that, or did you just use the gate like everyone else?
Well, I think it is fair to say that the person in question makes a significant difference regarding the decision to take the gate or otherwise. Rather, sometimes what you see on the other side makes you appreciate your side of the fence. Now certainly if you take the gate every time you want to cross over, you'll not end up with any real accomplishment except by the most outlandish chance. BUT, sometimes that gate just looks deliciously cathartic.
ReplyDeletePS I don't know what a slag is, but I think I picked it up from context. Actually, with the internet at my fingertips, I just looked it up.
PPS Also just looked up cathartic, because I really hate to misuse words and sound dumb. Didn't know it could be a laxative, lol.
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